Spring is here and as the trees and flowers are blooming, so to are the birds and the bees.
Congrats on attending one of the biggest party schools in California, where alcohol penetrates livers in a rallying call for a good time.
Part of the college experience is to have as much fun as possible and for some, that means parties, drinking and lots of sex.
Probably, drunk sex.
Truth is, you are wasting your time. Save yourself from an awkward one-on-one session that may end in regret.
Here is how alcohol can affect your sex life:
Alcohol serves as a vehicle to socialize with others. Of course, alcohol affects us all differently, but in most cases, it will prompt us to be more open and comfortable with those in our surroundings. The brain shuts downs and inhibits actions that would never cross our minds when sober.
Our brain is our biggest sex organ. This means any substance you ingest will stop conscious thinking, making you more impulsive and less anxious. Walking up to that cutie on the other side of the room will suddenly become a breeze. Remember, it all begins with an idea that culminates in an action.
Alcohol may physically turn you on. Yes, after a drink or two you begin to feel yourself. Why is this? Booze, turns out, makes people relax.
Drunk sex kills your orgasm. Ever heard of Whiskey dick－not being able to maintain or have an erection? Or you can’t seem to self-lubricate? In other words, your brain and body want it, but your genitals do not. You’re dry. At this point, you had too much alcohol. Tone it down. Your body is far too relaxed to even connect the dots between your brain and your privates.
Sex Injuries. You are drunk. Face it. If you are being helped out of a bar, go home! Alcohol decreases your natural lubrication. Don’t risk having dry sex that can cause injuries you’ll feel the next day.
Sexually Transmitted Diseases. I cannot stress this enough: protect yourself. STIs are not a joke. You should always be cautious of who you are slippin’ and slidin’ with. You never know what diseases people can carry that may put your own health at risk. Be conscious of actions that may have consequences.
Consent. Consent. Consent. This is the most critical, most important factor in this type of situation. In accordance with the law, when you are drunk you do not have the ability to actively agree to participate in sexual activities. Do not mix the two, it can be dangerous.
This is not to tell you to restrain from activities you may enjoy in college. By all means, enjoy yourself. But It is about moderation: Know when to draw the line and know when you can and cannot give consent.
Janette Estrada can be reached at [email protected] or @Jane_11e on Twitter.