From the French maid to wild domination fetishes, the human race has taken sexual acts to every possible level.
About 95 percent of people have sexual fantasies, according to a study from the University of Granada.
I have dozens of sexual fantasies. When I worked as a lifeguard, I always fantasized about seeing a girl drowning, saving her and being kissed on the spot, or more.
Fantasies about taking part in giant orgies in the middle of parties and using crazy sex toys to constantly pleasure my partner make their way into my daydreams.
I have fantasized about having sex with my teacher for a better grade, getting caught having sex on a plane and being the star of a porno.
Maybe it’s the thrill of taking sex to a new level or the excitement of the story, but I cannot help but let these thoughts make their mark on my imagination.
Having acted out some my least crazy sexual fantasies or lesser versions of them, such as using sex toys and dominating in the bedroom, I have found that learning what your partner fantasizes about helps the other aspects of your sex life.
I do not believe that all fantasies should be acted out, but if you are with a partner who is open to experimenting with both of your fantasies, starting with the ones that are more “normal” can be great for taking the next step in your sex life.
Here are some role play ideas that can be really fun to make a reality:
Striptease
Play some entrancing music and put on a show for each other — think gentleman’s club and Chippendales.
Watching each other masturbate
This fantasy can be very hot and great for foreplay if it’s something you both would like to try.
Watching your partner pleasure themselves also helps you learn how to pleasure them yourself.
When I watch a partner masturbate, it lets me know exactly how to touch them, what rhythm feels best and how to make them climax.
By paying attention to how your partner reacts to what you’re doing and communicating what you both like, making this fantasy a reality will make you and your partner better in bed.
Play doctor and patient
“Doctor, doctor! I’m in need of some sexual healing.”
Dress up, grab a stethoscope, inspect each other’s anatomy and administer a cure for your insatiable passion and desire.
Make a porno together
I wouldn’t make an exhibition like Kim Kardashian and Ray J, but having the camera watching your every move can be very exciting. Maybe you’ll even learn a thing or two about how to improve your skills in the bedroom.
Just make sure to delete it afterward.
Have a threesome or try group sex
A lot of people I know have this fantasy, but few have experienced it.
Getting another person or persons in the mix can create unwanted jealousy issues and insecurities in a relationship, so it is important to make sure you are both completely comfortable.
Watch other people have sex or be watched by someone else
Watching other people have sex can be a huge turn-on. Take a trip to a sex show and see if it tickles your fancy.
Being spied on may be more exciting for you. In that case, try having sex with the window open or in a public area, where the chance of being seen creates an extra sense of adventure. Fulfilling this fantasy is very high on my agenda.
Talking about sexual fantasies can be very uncomfortable, so they should be communicated in an open environment and with an open mind.
Whatever your fantasies may be, do not feel ashamed for having them. They are a part of who you are, so share your fantasies with your partner. It will bring you closer together, in and out of the sheets.
Michael Karp can be reached at [email protected] or @_MichaelKarp on Twitter.