Long distance relationships are difficult. Short distance relationships are difficult. All relationships are difficult. Even though there are those few rare couples who make it work, you are creating your own journey by moving away to college.
Creating your own journey will force you to make some hard decisions. One might be having to leave your girlfriend or boyfriend behind.
A part of this means letting go of the past. That means all of it. You are here to start a new chapter in your life by meeting different people, making new friends and hopefully evolving into a responsible adult.
40 percent of long distance relationships end in a break-up. Don’t become another statistic.
By holding on to a relationship back home, you are restricting yourself from meeting other people. Meeting new people in college is probably one of the most exciting things you could possibly do. It will have you wondering about what could or could not have happened if you were single.
It is already too difficult having to call your parents back home almost every day. The constant calls about whether or not you’ve been eating well, going to class and money are a pain already. Imagine doubling that amount of stress.
Being in a relationship is merely the same thing because you are constantly having to keep in touch throughout the day.
This brings me to my next point. Relationships are very time-consuming. Both parties live two different lives with different schedules. Instead of investing your time on your phone trying to hold a relationship, you could be creating new relationships with new people.
That is the point of college anyway. You are here to grow as a person. Not to deal with the daily drama that your partner may bring.
Couples can talk about how much they trust each other, but once you’re away from home and around many attractive people, then “trust” goes out of the window.
It is always better to be single unless you meet someone in college that you will actually spend time with on a daily basis.
Lastly, if you are in a healthy long distance relationship, then none of this applies to you.
28 percent of married couples find their spouse in college compared to that of 15 percent in high school. There is no surprise that relationships from high school often don’t work.
As you know, it’s married couples that often have that adorable love story about how they met in college, not high school. So drop it.
Danielle Cortes can be reached at [email protected] or @theorion_news on Twitter.